Signs That Your Abusive Partner Is a Narcissist

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Welcome to another episode of Thy Truth.

Is your abusive partner a narcissist?

We’ve talked about abusive relationships. We’ve talked about gaslighting and abusive relationships but being an abusive relationship doesn’t mean you are in a relationship with a narcissist. That’s an all different ball game. There are signs that you might want to look out for.

#1 – narcissists rarely have close connections to people. They don’t have friends, so they don’t want you to as well. They berate your friends, they castigate or reprove your friends. Imagine you are going out with a friend that you haven’t seen in a long time. Maybe an old classmate or something. As soon as they find out that you want to go out with this friend, they make you feel like you’ve been slacking in your duties and your responsibilities. They make you feel like you don’t have time for them. They make you feel guilty for going out with your friends. Relatable?

#2 – they’ve got this majestic sense of self-importance. They’re so self-centered, so self-conscious, they lack empathy. Everyone should attend to them it’s all about them.

#3 – they have this charming demeanor believe it a narcissist is likable by others in fact when you tell people that they do this or do that to you people would find it difficult to believe you know why because to others they’re charming even to you at first you know at the beginning of your relationship they will show you so much attention they’ll run errands for you and then the morning they will call you text you you’ll start to think ah he’s so nice oh she’s so sweet. After some time the charms wear off all gone and then you start to feel lonely you start to question yourself ask yourself what went wrong

#4 – if you are in an abusive relationship with a narcissist you would know because they have this thing about love bombing. They will bombard you with so much love so much love so much affection so much attention they will use this to influence you make you see things fantastically and then when things change you start to get confused you wonder wasn’t it the same person who was super nice to me who was really good to me yeah they’re very good at that

#5 – the need for excessive admiration. They’d like when you praise them when you admire them when you complement them if you look for new ways to complement them that’s what they like that’s when it gets to them you have to keep looking for new ways to admire them but guess what they will not reciprocate it even if they do you tell yourself it’s better they didn’t even do it at all because they would complement and then take it back with one word something like oh that was an impressive program you organized but your speech was lame what happened to just complimenting you know all things like ah congratulations on winning the award if i recall you you were in second place or i think the other lady should have won the award though you know the things that they would just say it will make you feel useless will make you feel unappreciated or things like oh that outfit looks very nice on you but you know yellow is not your color very sarcastic as well.

#6 – they have this sense of entitlement they are as entitled as they come so they expect special treatments they expect to be treated especially if you don’t give them what they want you’re gonna get a silent treatment or they start to yell at you or even get physical

#7 – they’re envious of your achievements have you experienced or seen a partner who’s jealous or insecure about your partner’s achievements i mean I hadn’t until a few years ago it happened to someone very close to me i mean as soon as they hear people you know talk about you talk about your achievements instead of being proud instead of being pleased they just cut you off or change the topic and then they go around to discredit their partner’s achievements they’ll go around spreading lies and talking negatively about their partners in fact this person in question went to the partners uh a company the cup where the partner worked and gave a negative report talked negatively about their own partner they even went as far as you know bidding for the job of their own partner amazing how someone would be envious would want to pull down a partner you say you love they just can’t stand the success of their partner they can’t stand you being more successful or even equally as successful

#8 – manipulative behavior they are the masters of emotional manipulation they cause confusion they cause low self-esteem anxiety shame guilt that can make you quit your job and stay home they can make you do things you don’t want to do and then

#9 – you might be dealing with a narcissist if they actually enjoy exploiting others you can see how they treat other people they use people as a means to an end they don’t care about other people’s feelings they are ready to take advantage of others without guilt without shame i know people who talk about how they look down on people they also like talking about themselves and make themselves look better than others these are just a few signs but you know the effect you know what happens how it makes you feel when you are in an abusive relationship with a narcissist you feel fear you feel depressed you feel guilt you feel agitation you feel this intense anger you get this emotional outburst you feel overwhelmed – you feel lost!

So what do you do when you find yourself in an abusive situation with a narcissist?

Before you do anything know this: a narcissist will not change no one is ever enough you cannot make them happy because they’re not truly happy with themselves you cannot change them don’t bother don’t try don’t even think about it it’s better to just walk away for your own mental health of course it’s not easy of course it’s easier said they will beg you when they discover you’re about to leave or when they know you want to walk away they will beg you they will lavish you with gifts they will tell you how much they love you how much they will die for you but hey don’t fall for it you deserve better they’ve done it before you sucked yourself back in or they sucked you back in and nothing changed you deserve better and when you decide to walk away don’t expect to get closure don’t don’t even look for closure forget about closure because a narcissist is not capable of admitting that they’re wrong they’re not capable of admitting that they caused a problem it’s never their fault it’s never their fault it’s not they didn’t do anything wrong so forget about closure.

Build a support system with your friends with your family with positive minded people.

I hope it works out and I wish you all the best.
Thank you for listening.

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